How to flirt in Spanish (Best Spanish Pick Up Lines)

By Lucia Published: October 19, 2024

8 min video

Flirting has its own tone and vocabulary in every language. Lucía looks at Spanish pick-up lines so you can hear the expressions and understand the cultural context around them.

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Choose one phrase that sounds playful and one that sounds too direct for you. Practice saying each naturally, and think about the setting where it would or would not fit.

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Read the complete substantive lesson in its original order. This readable transcript is edited from the full original manual English captions and original automatic caption track, with Spanish forms and examples checked against the actual video graphics. Caption errors and punctuation are repaired. Contextual English translations and labelled learner notes are additions; the instructor’s coaching, humor and teaching priorities are retained. Chapter timestamps are approximate. Music and the brand bumper are omitted.

All twenty-five flirting phrase groups, the original examples of what to avoid, and the three complete Spanish relationship stories are included. The stories were checked against the original on-screen Spanish subtitles and local Spanish transcription as well as the automatic caption source. Their relative dates and relationship descriptions belong to the time of recording. The colloquial wording and jokes are retained.

0:00 — Flirting in Spanish

They say the best way to learn a language is to have a native boyfriend or girlfriend who speaks it. In this lesson, I’ll show you how to flirt in Spanish and what to avoid so you don’t embarrass yourself. Master these tips and you’ll boost your Spanish skills, open the door to deeper connections, and maybe even romance. Stay until the end: some friends in healthy relationships will tell us how they got together, with tips from their own experience.

0:35 — How not to flirt

First, it’s very important to know how not to flirt. If you see a beautiful person walking past, don’t shout at them. It’s very uncomfortable. Some people, usually men, shout things like these. These are the original examples of what I tell you not to do:

¡Guapa!
Example translation: Beautiful! — shouted at a stranger in the demonstration.

¡Qué buena estás!
Example translation: You’re so hot! — the spoken example of catcalling.

Te comería entera
Example translation: I would eat you up. — the example the instructor discourages.

Or they whistle or honk from a car. I don’t think anyone has ever succeeded with that technique! Now, twenty-five phrases for flirting.

1:17 — 1. Your vibe

First, ways to approach someone you don’t know.

Oye, me encanta tu rollo
Example translation: Hey, I love your vibe.

1:25 — 2. Your style

Me gusta tu estilo
Example translation: I like your style.

1:29 — 3. Your smile

Me encanta lo sonriente que eres
Example translation: I love how smiley you are.

Me encanta que sonrías tanto
Example translation: I love that you smile so much.

1:40 — 4. From around here?

¿Eres de por aquí?
Example translation: Are you from around here?

1:44 — 5. You seem incredible

Tienes pinta de ser una persona increíble
Example translation: You seem like an incredible person.

1:49 — 6. A mutual friend

Perdona, ¿tenemos algún amigo en común para que nos presente?
Example translation: Excuse me, do we have a mutual friend who could introduce us?

1:57 — 7. Movies

Next, ways to get to know someone and keep the conversation going.

¿Te gusta el cine?
Example translation: Do you like movies?

2:05 — 8. Pizza

¿Te gusta la pizza?
Example translation: Do you like pizza?

2:08 — 9. Music

¿Te gusta la música? ¿Qué tipo de música escuchas?
Example translation: Do you like music? What kind of music do you listen to?

We want more, we want more! Okay: if you’re talking to someone and want their Instagram or phone number, how do you ask?

2:26 — 10. Instagram

¿Tienes Instagram? ¿Te importaría que fuésemos amigos de Instagram?
Example translation: Are you on Instagram? Would you mind being friends with me on Instagram?

¿Te importaría que nos siguiésemos en Instagram?
Example translation: Would you mind if we followed each other on Instagram?

2:42 — 11. A phone number

¿Me das tu número de teléfono?
Example translation: Would you give me your phone number?

2:46 — 12. WhatsApp

¿Me dices tu número para agregarte a WhatsApp?
Example translation: Would you tell me your number so I can add you on WhatsApp?

2:52 — Study guide

If you don’t understand the grammar in these sentences, I have a free study guide to help you learn Spanish. Download it using the link in the video’s description. Hold tight—I have more and better phrases.

3:06 — 13. A drink together

If you want to meet the person for a drink or something, you can ask:

Me gustaría tomarme algo contigo, si te apetece
Example translation: I’d like to have a drink with you, if you’d like to.

3:18 — 14. Someday

¿Te apetecería tomar algo conmigo un día?
Example translation: Would you like to have a drink with me sometime?

3:24 — 15. Friday

¿Haces algo el viernes por la tarde?
Example translation: Do you have plans on Friday afternoon?

3:29 — 16. Are you free?

¿Estás libre el sábado? / ¿Estás libre esta noche?
Example translation: Are you free on Saturday? / Are you free tonight?

3:36 — 17. A coffee

¿Dónde puedo encontrar una cafetería? ¿Quieres un café?
Example translation: Where can I find a café? Would you like a coffee?

Next come my favorites, the funny ones—but first, if you like to be cheesy, here are a few lines.

3:51 — 18. Trying not to fall in love

Yo intentando no enamorarme y apareces tú con esa sonrisa
Example translation: Here I am trying not to fall in love, and you turn up with that smile.

4:01 — 19. A dream?

¿Esto es un sueño o tú eres real?
Example translation: Is this a dream, or are you real?

4:06 — 20. Brighter than the sun

Nunca pensé que nadie fuera capaz de brillar más que el sol
Example translation: I never thought anyone could shine more brightly than the sun.

Time for my favorites: the funny ones!

4:15 — 21. Solve the problem

Aún no nos conocemos, debemos solucionar ese problema
Example translation: We don’t know each other yet. We should solve that problem.

4:21 — 22. Bad at everything

¿Te gustan las chicas malas? Yo soy mala en todo
Example translation: Do you like bad girls? I’m bad at everything.

Or, if you’re a man:

¿Te gustan los chicos malos? Yo soy malo en todo
Example translation: Do you like bad boys? I’m bad at everything.

4:35 — 23. A wish for the Three Kings

Dime tu nombre, para pedirte cuando vengan los Reyes
Example translation: Tell me your name so I can ask for you when the Three Kings come.

Los Reyes Magos are like Santa Claus in the Spanish Christmas gift tradition.

Learner note — Christmas tradition: The Three Kings’ gift-giving celebration is on 6 January, at the end of the Spanish Christmas season. The Santa Claus comparison explains their gift-bringing role; it does not put the celebration on 25 December. Source: Spain tourism: Christmas traditions.

4:44 — 24. Google

¿Eres Google? Tienes todo lo que busco
Example translation: Are you Google? You have everything I’m looking for.

4:51 — 25. Call me

Hola, me llamo [nombre], pero tú puedes llamarme siempre que quieras
Example translation: Hi, my name is [name], but you can call me whenever you want.

In the spoken version, I use my own name:

Hola, me llamo Lucía, pero tú puedes llamarme siempre que quieras
Example translation: Hi, my name is Lucía, but you can call me whenever you want.

5:00 — How friends met their partners

The cherry on top: I asked friends with successful relationships in Spain how they did it, their formula for success. They told me lovely things. Let’s hear them—take notes! The following stories keep their original Spanish and are lightly punctuated for reading. They describe the guests’ experiences at the time of recording; hoy and relative dates belong to those stories.

5:21 — Andrea’s story

Pues era un viernes que tenía yo un examen de física. Y cuando salí del examen, mi amiga, que me había visto agobiada, cansada del examen de cuatro horas, me dijo: «Venga, pues vente a un concierto conmigo». Y dije: «Venga, vale, pues vamos al concierto y nos desestresamos».
Example translation: It was a Friday when I had a physics exam. When I came out, my friend had seen how stressed and tired I was after the four-hour exam. She said, “Come on, come to a concert with me.” I said, “Okay, let’s go to the concert and unwind.”

Y cuando llegué allí, ella los conocía porque era amigo suyo de la facultad. Y yo miré al batería y dije: «Es muy guapo». Así que le pregunté a mi amiga: «Oye, ¿tu amigo está soltero? ¿Qué pasa con tu amigo?». Y ella me decía: «Pues mira, no lo sé. Pregúntale».
Example translation: When I got there, she knew them because he was a friend of hers from university. I looked at the drummer and said, “He’s really good-looking.” So I asked my friend, “Hey, is your friend single? What’s the situation with him?” She said, “Well, I don’t know. Ask him.”

Así que lo busqué en Facebook y le empecé a decir que sí, me gustaba mucho su grupo, que había sido un muy buen concierto, así para hablar con él. Y el resto es historia.
Example translation: So I looked him up on Facebook and started telling him that I really liked his band and it had been a very good concert, just to start talking to him. The rest is history.

6:08 — Marcos’s story

Pues conocí a mi novio una noche que estaba saliendo de fiesta por Barcelona con unos amigos. Estábamos en un bar y sonaba una canción que a mí me gustaba mucho. Y él estaba con sus amigos también. Se acercó y me dijo: «Esta canción te gusta, ¿no?». Y yo le dije: «Sí».
Example translation: I met my boyfriend one night when I was out partying in Barcelona with friends. We were in a bar, and a song I really liked was playing. He was there with his friends too. He came over and said, “You like this song, right?” I said, “Yes.”

Y entonces me dijo: «¿Quieres bailar conmigo?». Y yo le dije que sí. Y a partir de entonces, nos volvimos a ver, y hasta el día de hoy.
Example translation: Then he said, “Do you want to dance with me?” I said yes. After that we kept seeing each other, right up to the day this story was recorded.

6:41 — Ana’s story

¡Hola, Lu! Pues te comento. Conocí a mi pareja cuando estudiaba fuera de mi ciudad, porque estaba en la misma clase que un compañero de piso. Le llamó mucho la atención que fuera sevillana y empezó ahí la coña. Básicamente, contactó conmigo por Twitter y me pidió el número.
Example translation: Hi, Lu! Let me tell you. I met my partner when I was studying away from my hometown, because he was in the same class as one of my flatmates. The fact that I was from Seville really caught his attention, and that’s when the joking began. Basically, he contacted me on Twitter and asked for my number.

Y con la tontería, descubrimos que éramos más parecidos de lo que creíamos. Y podíamos hablar de cualquier cosa. Eso era lo que más me gustaba. Hasta que un día, el mismo… el mismo día que mi examen de bioquímica de primero de carrera, que, por cierto, me salió como el culo, debo decir…
Example translation: With all that joking around, we discovered we were more alike than we’d thought. We could talk about anything. That was what I liked most. Then one day—the very day of my first-year university biochemistry exam, which, I have to say, went really badly…

Me llevó a un parque y me pidió salir bajo la lluvia. Y hasta hoy, que hace un año, aproximadamente, le pedí matrimonio con un libro y me dijo que sí. Así que hemos pasado a ser prometidos.
Example translation: He took me to a park and asked me to go out with him in the rain. And here we are: about a year before this recording, I proposed to him with a book, and he said yes. So now we’re engaged.

7:24 — Pronunciation joke and closing

I’m taking notes on everything. I need to go out more, I guess! To flirt in Spanish, pronunciation matters too. If you say anos instead of años, you’re asking how many buttholes someone has.

¿Cuántos anos tienes?
Example translation: How many anuses do you have? — the deliberately mistaken age question.

¿Cuántos años tienes?
Example translation: How old are you?

Try the recommended pronunciation video. If you pronounce those fifteen words correctly, your Spanish pronunciation is amazing. Click through to check it out.

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